What It’s Like to Date a Chinese Woman

The Chinese dating scene is different from that in the United States.

Unlike the former, Americans’ view on dating and marriage is far more casual. Anyone can go on dates without expecting a serious relationship.

China, on the other hand, is different. Most Chinese folks still follow their country’s traditional dating etiquette. From paying the bill to wooing the woman’s parents — these conservative beliefs remain.

That being said, if you want to successfully date a Chinese woman, you should take note of these things:

Show your sincerity first.

Traditional Chinese beliefs view dating, relationships, and marriage as serious affairs. This means that if you want to date a Chinese woman, you have to seriously consider that she may be thinking of marriage down the line.

Although some women have adapted to the modern Western way wherein they date for the sake of dating, most Chinese women still follow their tradition. They date to marry.

Which is why you have to show that you are sincere and serious about the person you want to date.

To do this, it’s best to visit the Chinese woman’s family and ask for their permission to date (and possibly marry) her. Only then will she entertain you and go on dates with you.

You make the first move.

You should make the first move and ask her out. You can’t expect her to do it no matter how interested she is in you.

This is because most women from China still follow traditional gender roles wherein they are expected to act feminine and conservative while men take the lead.

You pay for your dates.

Although some are willing to challenge tradition and split the bill, most Chinese women expect you to pay for your dates.

Don’t think of them trying to take advantage of you in any way. But they do want to make sure of your sincerity and capacity to pay.

As mentioned, they date to marry. In their tradition, men should act as the head of the family, and as such, your responsibilities include being the provider. Whether you like it or not, how much money you make and your ability to provide does come into the equation. It isn’t personal. She’s just being practical.

Now, this doesn’t mean that Chinese women only date rich guys. But at least show that you are willing to work hard for her and your future family.

Don’t force her into intimacy.

Since they come from a very conservative culture, Chinese women take time to get intimate.

No matter how much they like you, they will shy away from kissing and holding hands on the first few dates.

This doesn’t mean that you will never be able to kiss them. However, they will try to hold off as long as they can until they can confirm your sincerity.

Avoid being too affectionate in public.

Chinese women prefer kissing and other kinds of physical intimacy to be done in private.

This is because public displays of affection are a big no-no in China. This doesn’t mean that such acts are prohibited, however, these are just frowned upon since they care about their public image and reputation.

Pay respect to her family.

Considering that your goal is to marry her, you should get along with her family the moment you start dating.

You see, when you are dating a Chinese woman, you are also dating her family.

If they like you, they are most likely to agree to your proposal for marriage. When they don’t, then expect your date to split up with you.

This is simply the reality of the Chinese dating scene — a woman’s family plays a major role in her dating and marriage life.

Yes, she can make her own decisions and disagree with what they want for her. However, it’s best to get her family’s blessings and live a happy marriage.

Be an honest prospect

Lastly, remember that Chinese women are not all the same.

They differ a lot in their values and how they deal with dates.

Yes, most are traditional, while some are quite modern.

As a man who wants to date a Chinese woman, you should let go of your idea of what she should and should not be.

If you truly want a long-term relationship with this woman, then don’t be afraid to show honesty. Do your best. She will see that and love you for it.